tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post4295686464260944010..comments2024-03-27T11:16:25.666+09:00Comments on The Ultimate Peru List: Reader Request: Think Carefully Before Marrying a PeruvianSharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00052525872514292116noreply@blogger.comBlogger112125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-31512920797419371302019-01-08T11:25:01.396+09:002019-01-08T11:25:01.396+09:00You need to contact a lawyer. Many lawyers speak E...You need to contact a lawyer. Many lawyers speak English. I would ask in Expatriates in Peru on FB to find a lawyer in the city you're in. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-78326777449169960712019-01-05T01:55:30.976+09:002019-01-05T01:55:30.976+09:00Hi Sharon
I am a foreigner married to a Peruvian....Hi Sharon<br /><br />I am a foreigner married to a Peruvian.Two years ago she took my kids for her sisters wedding promising to return in a few months,but she never did.She made me come here and stay og I want to be with them.She refuses to go back.Where can I get some legal advice,it seems no one speaks English here.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487815897134584622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-91564094315506141762018-08-19T13:20:20.972+09:002018-08-19T13:20:20.972+09:00Very well said!Very well said!Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-24767985392501602372018-08-19T08:12:32.450+09:002018-08-19T08:12:32.450+09:00After Read all that and being Peruvian one of the ...After Read all that and being Peruvian one of the few that live quite different from the common population I could say that If you ever going to marry someone from This country first thing you need to know if that person is able to travel to your country as a tourist just to see you and then wants exactly the same, if that person is NOT putting anything (out of their pocket) to be with you then is a fairly NO, here in Peru we know that people from "la Selva" as Iquitos San Martin Amazonas are extremly promiscous or are not good for relationships while People from Piura, Trujillo, Ica, and around 30% in Lima are amazing partner material,loyal and independent (most of the time) and well behave, I myself dated some people in my country and yes they cheat, they lie, they are a nightmare, i'd rather someone jealous instead of a cheater (because perfect match is too hard to be picky nowadays), after some time i dated someone from Korea I didnt want they to come here neither i go there because i wanted something like "it has to be 50/50" so we agreed to see each other in Argentina (that persona wanted to go there whether I was going or not) Things were going good but they explain me that being first and only child in a korean family their family hope for they to marry a korean.. so after some problems we decided to see eachother in NYC and keep being friends, we both are born in 1989 so same age... For all my people that are not well behave I'm truly sorry for all the ones that makes you have Im really envy! dang I live here and travel a lil of the world yet not falling in love again, but guys no matter if peruvian or any other culture, if both are willing to put the effort (and the money, is awful a man or woman paying everything at least i always though that it should be 50 50 unless is a suprise invitation or so) maybe the peruvian (most likely is true)doesnt have the money, maybe the foreign doesnt have it but if is willing to work harder or maybe increase their saving for you.. (not for your visa or country) you go people! <br /><br />(btw test them, if u see they want to go out peru too much, tell them u can live in Peru with them, it doesnt matter which country is love must never be blind, we are not kids and there is no puppy love anymore at least I think so)<br /><br />I hope I could help you more, my country is really amazing, but you have to know what kind of city are you going .. there are cities where most of the people is up for fun... there are others were ull find the old romantics hoping for one glance to start! Up to you and never ever ever let anyone tell yes or no if your feelings say different even 1 or 2 mistakes are good in life (just dont let those last longer than some months please!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323141515273415476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-38844075845927088322018-05-24T15:57:21.220+09:002018-05-24T15:57:21.220+09:00Yeah, you gotta trust your gut. You're going t...Yeah, you gotta trust your gut. You're going to find scammy people everywhere. I'm sure there are horrible people from Iquitos just like there are amazing people from there. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-60536978363867634292018-05-23T17:25:12.010+09:002018-05-23T17:25:12.010+09:00Hello. This is a great conversation. I'm from...Hello. This is a great conversation. I'm from the US and have recently met a girl from Iquitos. We are talking about marriage. But, there have been a LOT of red flags (to say the least). I'm wondering what people's experience has been with Iquitos women (or men) and the culture there regarding relationships and marriage. Thanks! American_guy_loves_Iquitos_girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11763471930954096101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-17074551255912334272018-04-27T09:48:03.519+09:002018-04-27T09:48:03.519+09:00I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you've b...I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you've been able to say no. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-53680513199715318522018-04-27T09:46:53.742+09:002018-04-27T09:46:53.742+09:00There's always counseling. Or divorce. Cultura...There's always counseling. Or divorce. Cultural differences are hard that's for sure!Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-43837131466170025892018-04-24T05:33:13.076+09:002018-04-24T05:33:13.076+09:00Not only that but a lot of them came here for mone...Not only that but a lot of them came here for money, as did my husband's family. They always have their hands out which is a big problem as well. He is amazingly greedy. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13030375160033375022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-13293324669462754082018-04-24T05:28:35.515+09:002018-04-24T05:28:35.515+09:00I regret marrying a Peruvian. Etiquitte and table...I regret marrying a Peruvian. Etiquitte and table manners are so different culturally. He and his family have no tact which make it hard to bear on a day to day basis. He just wants to be himself but has no friends and is hard for even me to be around because he acts like an animal and says, does things that Americans consider rude- constantly. Eating others' food, eating like a loud animal, insulting people, yelling and talking too loudly, infidelity, etc. Things they think are normal and I know it's selfish and rude. He was just raised this way. In Lima. And taught not to back down or change when necessary. So instead he stays like this at the expense of those around me. Wish I'd seen it sooner.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13030375160033375022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-19660905965863470512018-01-24T06:16:37.264+09:002018-01-24T06:16:37.264+09:00All fine and well, however, cultural differences c...All fine and well, however, cultural differences cannot be denied no matter where they occur.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04012064137739052552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-18962134462626611892017-11-12T00:29:25.184+09:002017-11-12T00:29:25.184+09:00Bangladesh don't have embassy in Perú just in ...Bangladesh don't have embassy in Perú just in Brazil. In Perú live many people from Bangladesh. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621043877658567176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-46975224386082208012017-11-07T10:11:20.704+09:002017-11-07T10:11:20.704+09:00That's awesome! I'm glad everything worked...That's awesome! I'm glad everything worked out for you. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-68260980894535952542017-11-07T03:23:09.515+09:002017-11-07T03:23:09.515+09:00I am American, and have been married to a lovely P...I am American, and have been married to a lovely Peruvian woman for almost 17 glorious years now. We have two children (14 and 12 years old) and live outside Washington DC. While being married to someone from a different culture offers new and even strange difficulties, she is the only woman I ever considered marrying, and never would I choose another woman. She is the best thing that ever happened to me, given my own catastrophic family and childhood. And as has been said above, when you marry a Peruvian, you marry the family. And what a good family she has! We will retire in about ten years and plan to move to Peru (Trujillo, Huanchaco) to live out our Golden Years. Sometimes it is a blessing to be loved by someone not from your own culture.One who will listen...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04167823813055977847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-25908305366842798782017-05-12T12:12:18.230+09:002017-05-12T12:12:18.230+09:00If the U.K. courts say it's not legal, why do ...If the U.K. courts say it's not legal, why do you need it nullified? Unless you're planning on going back to Peru, if the U.K. will give you something then it should be fine. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-78722363953921426842017-05-11T21:02:51.357+09:002017-05-11T21:02:51.357+09:00Ok thanks, I will try to find a lawyer in Lima tha...Ok thanks, I will try to find a lawyer in Lima that will act for me. It has been proved in a UK court that it isnt legal and this was confirmed by a lawyer in Peru but unfortunately they cannot act on my behalf. I need to apply in Peru for a nullification as they cannot do it over here. Many thanks.Iain Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11724585277955551206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-52117072688662998392017-05-11T19:52:48.835+09:002017-05-11T19:52:48.835+09:00You'd have to prove the marriage wasn't le...You'd have to prove the marriage wasn't legal. It might be easier to just get a divorce. Peru is corrupt. You're going to need a lawyer or someone to act on your behalf if you can't go. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-35696807966356363152017-05-11T01:22:53.287+09:002017-05-11T01:22:53.287+09:00Thankyou LostRealm, I have sadly found that out an...Thankyou LostRealm, I have sadly found that out and apparently a friend of her dads was the mayor who "married" us and not even in his municipality. <br /><br />Would you or anyone reading this be able to give any advice on getting a nullification in Peru? I am in the UK and my spanish has gone very rusty. Do I just need to write letter to a family court in Lima or do I have to have a lawyer acting for me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I want to put that whole sorry thing behind me.Iain Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11724585277955551206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-10066747747831968862017-04-19T20:00:34.516+09:002017-04-19T20:00:34.516+09:00And get a pre-nup. And get a pre-nup. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-31492571378994323352017-04-19T20:00:05.257+09:002017-04-19T20:00:05.257+09:00That's an interesting idea.That's an interesting idea. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-56605862995051898422017-04-19T19:59:21.374+09:002017-04-19T19:59:21.374+09:00Yes, that's sad but true.Yes, that's sad but true. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-25400271998395613252017-04-19T19:58:32.114+09:002017-04-19T19:58:32.114+09:00Divorce cases in other countries can take years as...Divorce cases in other countries can take years as well. Definitely find a good lawyer. Sharon (naturegirl321)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943832489087637725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-15968633529224559532017-04-18T18:54:44.875+09:002017-04-18T18:54:44.875+09:001y is bad for mariage. in Peru divorce may take up...1y is bad for mariage. in Peru divorce may take up to 12y. people needs fo learn from eachother. secrets. family. behaviours. etc etc at least for 3y before thinking on marriage. LostRealmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12528638982534715525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-50691866987681884702017-04-18T18:49:20.947+09:002017-04-18T18:49:20.947+09:00give her a 2year test . tell her u had a financial...give her a 2year test . tell her u had a financial problem thag u lost a lot of money. that u wont be able o afford many things. that if she is whiling to wait 1y or more (both sides). if she acept then give a try you will see how many time she last . if she tries to drop u out. then u know her real intentions i also believe that indian girls are almost equal to latin american ones national behaviour but not for apperance. thats why many foreign get fooled by their body lol and thats why i stoped datin them. their perspective of the world wrong because they copy the bad stuff from the west i mean the US and their world view is too small in my point of view. even if they have high degrees or class A of limaLostRealmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12528638982534715525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4169548788635498503.post-29662775506992786582017-04-18T18:34:05.149+09:002017-04-18T18:34:05.149+09:00its fraud. and you got fooled.. before marriages ...its fraud. and you got fooled.. before marriages both sides needs to test each other in many ways and must pass all . forgiveness may exist but there are family behaviors that they may not changed because they are attached to it and focused on their personal goals instead of relationship ones. u also need to investigate their relationship with her/his family if is very attached and also talk about future and goals . they can even lie to . and uhm try contact fellow british ppl in Peru with fluent spanish to help u find detectives to find info of her. she may have enemies which many kno info about it (of her planing to scam u) every legal process takes a. lot of time in Peru like twice or even more time than. in the UK. btw just letting u know peruvian laws n lawyes n judges are easy to manipulate with cash.LostRealmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12528638982534715525noreply@blogger.com